After over two years of not talking to to him, I sent that email back on Oct 4th. I have to tell you that it was a very hard thing for me to do and I cried buckets in my wife's arms that night.
(random macho posturing for admitting that I cried)
A few days passed and I got a response back from him and it was one of confusion, hurt and pain. He asked some questions about why now and some other pointed ones, to which I'm proud to say I answered honestly and openly, even as hard as it was for me.
We met up for lunch and it was like we had just seen each other just a few weeks ago. We did a lot of catch up on family, life changes, the economy etc. The one thing we never did talk about was why we hadn't talked... strike that, why I had cut him out of my life.
See even now, I'm trying to minimize the fact that I was the one that cut him out. Yes, I did it because of something he said to me at the time, but I'll get into that in another post. I really just want to bask in the comfortable feeling that see him, sharing laughs and yes, even disagreeing about somethings brought back.
That being said, we parted on good terms and I did email him later about the fact that we never did bring up or discuss the reason for our estrangement. I'll paraphrase his response, but it breaks down to this:
Ya, we didn't talk about it. Maybe someday we will and maybe someday we won't. I'm just glad to have you back in my life.
True friendship can overcome stupid.